help me

i've got a problem. this sunday night, aviance (my co-worker) and i are showing the movie crash and hosting a film discussion about racial reconciliation. i've seen the movie twice, and i think it's amazing. artistically, it's very well done. the cinematography, the writing, the acting... all great. more importantly, i think the message of the movie, that racism is still a huge problem in the united states, both individually and systemically, is very important for students to hear. i want them to think about the ways that our prejudices affect us still, even when we think we've got them under control, and to think about what our responsibility is as Christians to work for racial reconciliation and justice. we're hoping to use this film discussion as an evangelistic tool to bring a bunch of students together, and let them know that the Christians care about these things. we've advertised around campus, and we're ready to go.
what then, you may ask, is the problem? well, on wednesday night, i brought postcard invitations up to the fellowship group on campus. i passed out about a hundred invitations. the group is run by another ministry out of a local church, and i've spent the past year working with this group, building a trusting, working relationship with the leaders. it's been great. however, as i finished passing out the last few cards, the leader picked one of them up and asked me what it was. i told him about it and invited him, and he asked me if i'd read the reviews of the movie. i told him i've seen it twice, and i think it's great. he said that he's heard that it has terrible language (which it does, and some sexual content), and since he spends so much of his time trying to get the students to guard their eyes and their ears, he doesn't want to back this event. he said he wished i had asked him before i passed them out, because since the students got the invitation at his fellowship, it looks like he supports it. i hadn't even THOUGHT of that. i definitely should have asked him before i passed them out, but it didn't even occur to me, and now it's too late. i am afraid that i have compromised the relationship that i spent a year building, and i feel terrible. however, i still think that this movie is worth watching. i want to teach the students how to discern between the good and the bad, and even though this movie drops the f-bomb a whole lot of times, i still think it has a lot of great things to say. i know it's going to spark a lot of discussion, and hopefully get the students thinking about the issue of racial reconciliation. but i don't want to compromise this relationship with the other group, because i think it's really important that we learn how to work together. in john 17:20-21, jesus' last prayer for us before he was crucified, he said, "i am praying not only for these disciples but also for all who will ever believe in me through their message. i pray that they will all be one, just as you and i are one--as you are in me, father, and i am in you. and may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me." if his last prayer was that we be unified, i think it's important that we figure out how to work together past our differences. so, what do you think? what should i do?
also, i just found this poem on my friend becky's site, and i thought it was relevant. enjoy.

There is no power greater than a community discovering what it cares about.

Ask “What’s possible?” not “What’s wrong?”
Keep asking.

Notice what you care about.

Assume that many others share your dreams.

Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.
Talk to people you know.
Talk to people you don’t know.
Talk to people you never talk to.

Be intrigued by the differences you hear.
Expect to be surprised.

Treasure curiosity more than certainty.

Invite in everybody who cares to work on what’s possible.
Acknowledge that everyone is an expert about something.
Know that creative solutions come from new connections.
Remember, you don’t fear people whose story you know.

Real listening always brings people together.
Trust that meaningful conversations can change your world.
Rely on human goodness.
Stay together.

Taken from:
Wheatley, Margaret J. 2002. Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope to the Future. Berrett-Koehler: San Francisco. p. 145.